• June 17, 2025
• Saksham

“I Am Not Good Enough”: When That Becomes Your Reality

If you're caught in the loop of “I am not good enough,” and that’s become your core belief, it starts shaping your mindset, confidence and actions..

Because of that belief, you hesitate. You hold back. You don’t take action. Meanwhile, people who may be less capable or less intelligent step forward and try, and often move ahead. When you see their progress, your belief tightens its grip.
“See?” you tell yourself. “I knew it. I’m not good enough.”
You start believing they’re smarter, more disciplined, more deserving. And you’re not.

But here’s the irony:
Most people who carry this belief are often the most gifted. The most intuitive. The most promising.
The ripest mangoes of the whole breed.

It’s not that you’re lacking in potential. It’s that you don’t believe in yourself.
That’s the real block.
The world can see your light. But you live as if you’re in darkness.
Someone could have just one conversation with you and walk away thinking, Wow. This person is special. They’re going to do wonders.
But you don’t believe that. You can’t see it.

This belief doesn’t always scream. It shows up in the smallest moments.
Imagine someone gives you a simple worksheet, like class 1 mathematics.
You say, “No, I’m not prepared. I don’t think I can do this. I use my laptop and calculator for everything. I’m just not ready.”

They respond, “But this is just class 1 math.”

You still say, “No. I can’t. I’m not prepared.”

They gently point out, “Look, someone else is doing it.”

You reply, “Yeah, because they’re smart. They’re focused. They work harder. I don’t have it in me.”

They try to reassure you. “You can do it. It’s just class 1 math.”

And still, you say, “You’re just being kind. I’m not capable. You’re trying to motivate me, but I know myself better than you do. I can’t.”

This is what happens when “I am not good enough” becomes your identity.

Even the smallest tasks feel threatening. Even small actions trigger fear. Because in your mind, the outcome is already decided.
“I can’t do it.” And you trust that voice.

Meanwhile, someone else takes the leap. They may not reach the summit, but they at least get to base camp. And you’re still standing at the beginning, thinking, “They’ve done so much.”

Another thing about people who carry this belief is that they disqualify their own wins.
Even when they make progress, they say, “This was basic. This wasn’t a big deal.”
And just like that, the belief gets reinforced.
“I haven’t really achieved anything. I’m still not good enough.”

But how can you ever feel good enough if you keep dismissing every step forward?

Every time you do something your past self would’ve struggled with, you normalize it.
You say, “It’s not a big deal.”
Then you look at others and compare.
“They’re doing bigger things. I’m still behind.”

Each of these thoughts, repeated and again, strengthens the belief.

And like I said, the entire world might see your light.
But you live in darkness.

And it all started when you accepted “I am not good enough” as truth.
As a fact written in stone.
As something that could never change.
You made it your reality.

If this resonated with you, take a moment to pause.

These patterns feel heavy, but they’re not permanent.

This is the kind of work I support people through: untangling limiting beliefs like “I’m not good enough” and helping them reconnect with clarity, direction, and self-trust.

If you’d like to explore this further, you can fill out the contact form on this website or email me directly at vidushibinani.saksham@gmail.com.

[Self Doubt, Core Beliefs, Self Worth, Mindset Coaching, Confidence, Personal Growth]